Christmas Present – As In Christmas Now – Not The Gift.

Christmas present is not actually Christmas present.  It is about the Christmases we had with our children, when they were little.  They have since grown and moved away. Yuck!! I hate the sound of that!  I miss them being here so much!  I am proud and happy  that they are doing fine on their own, but I long for those little arms around our necks and those little legs running down the hallways in excitement, giggling and laughing.  I miss everything about them.

I wanted our children to have the wonderful memories that I had so I tried to make Christmas close to my parents’ style.  We use to keep up my mother’s tradition of decorating on Thanksgiving night, but had to change that.  After my mother passed away, Thanksgivings were only at my husband’s family – the 45 minute drive one way. The children were so excited to get back and decorate that they were ready to leave Thanksgiving at Grandma’s right after eating. We, of course, stayed anyway and visited and played games and things. We were so tired when we got home but never wanted to disappoint the children, so we decorated anyway. As we decorated, there was always Christmas music playing or a Christmas movie was put on. We never finished it that night, but we got a healthy start or at least got the tree up.  Our tree was artificial but I always teasingly told the children that we had to wait to decorate until the branches warmed up and dropped, just like my mom told us.  They would just laugh. Christmas was the time to remove every decoration, every anything that you had in your home and replace it with only Christmas!  Shower curtains, hand towels, soap dispensers, napkin holders, salt and pepper shakers, items on the walls, rugs, anything in the home had to be Christmas.  At times, we were not even finished decorating when Christmas arrived. Going overboard?  Yes, maybe, but the only way to be! Solution:  We start decorating November 1 so that we are finished by Christmas and we now can stay later in the evening at Grandma’s as the children were no longer so anxious to leave. We had a Christmas tree downstairs and upstairs.  The children had small trees in their rooms. One can never have enough trees, can they?  Keeping with mom’s tradition, we strung popcorn and made paper chains, too. We would make/craft some type of ornament each year.  This was a fun family project and the children would make extras to give out as gifts.  We still have at least one of every single one of these ornaments.

Black Friday was never about shopping with us.  I am not sure shopping was a big day then and I am not sure it was always called that. Was it? It was about continuing decorating and starting on the candy making.  It seemed we made candy and/or cookies daily!  We filled every container available and stocked up the freezer. We each had our favorites. We set out a  little candy daily until Christmas and then set it all out on Christmas Eve and Christmas day just like mom did. Christmas Eve was spent with my side of the family coming to our house and we had an evening of snack type foods, meatballs, cheese dips, barbecued cocktail weiners, cheese garlic bread, bacon wrapped chestnuts, devilled ham dip and more.  I have included the recipe for bacon wrapped chestnuts. Of course, all of the candy was set around, including some store bought favorites. We exchanged gifts and then a Christmas paper ball fight broke out.  People were wadding up the used wrapping paper and throwing wadded balls at each other like crazy. This was always a high speed fight. The paper ball fight eventually  prompted the tradition of buying “toys for the boys.” This never stopped the paper fights though, that is a yearly occurrence! Someone would buy a “toy” for every guy that would be coming.  I believe they were usually some type of shooting toy, nerf or whatever. One year, though,  it was blow dart guns.  They all had to go outside and play with those. Funny thing was, that year it was almost 70 degrees out on Christmas.  Illinois weather is the best!

I think that the most memorable was when my nephew and his wife stole away to the downstairs where they had marshmallow shooting guns hidden.  They loaded all of the guns and came bounding up the stairs firing away at all of us, handing each of us a gun as they passed by us. A complete war broke out.  Such a fun thing to watch.  Guys were hiding like swat team members, darting around corners, hiding against walls and shooting at each other. The cat even got involved in this one!  I will have to explain this.  We had been running down hallways, up and down the stairs, and from room to room. We were in complete combat!  We finally had to rest and were sitting and talking and reliving the “war”.  Suddenly a marshmallow comes sailing into the room from the hallway.  I am sure this is hard to believe, but it was seen with our own eyes!  The cat picked up a marshmallow in the hallway and tossed it into the room!  We laughed so hard that it took awhile for us to recover from that one. I was finding those miniature marshmallows for years in various different out of reach places.  I found one this very year when we had to move a cabinet.  What a great thing to find!  I smiled most of the day with that memory. I took a picture of that marshmallow with my phone and shared it with my daughter!  Haha. After everyone left, the children were allowed to open one gift from us before bedtime.

Christmas morning  –  what fun for the children.  They could barely sleep.  Our youngest, a daughter, would seem to wake up every hour and run to our room and tell us she was certain Santa was here, could we please get up.  She would say I saw him!  I know he came! I see presents that were not there before! She was so excited! You should have seen that sweet little girl.  She was the picture of Christmas.  She was such a beautiful sight to see with her long blonde hair, her beautiful big brown eyes sparkling with excitement and dressed in a red plaid flannel night gown with white lace. Sometimes we went ahead and let them open gifts as early as 4:00 a.m. What a pleasure to see them so excited, their eyes sparkling and all smiles.  I will never forget those days.  I would relive them all over day after day if it were possible.  I could really elaborate here and tell thousands of stories about them during this season, but I would never be able to stop.  I have the rest of the year as the memories pop up to tell you about them. I don’t have the words to sum up how full my heart is, how much love I have for those children and how I wish time could stand still and I could have these moments forever!

Presents opened and played with for a bit and then off to Grandma’s for dinner.  Again, the children, as much as they loved Grandma and Grandpa and all of the other relatives, could not wait to eat and leave.  They now wanted to get home to play with all of the great items they received.  This barely touches on the joy and great times we had at Christmas with our precious children, but you can imagine.  As I said, I have the rest of the year to tell more as well.  I can say this to all of you, treasure your moments with your family and children.  They really do fly by and are gone before you know it. Do not get caught up in the hectic times.  Slow down and make those memories that will last your lifetime.  Put that sparkle in some child’s eye, you will never forget it!

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Christmas Past – As A Child

Christmas – The Best Memories Ever —

Our mother and father would go all out.  Mom made so, so many candies and cookies.  Starting about the first of December there was always a table with some sort of candy on it.  Our biggest part of Christmas was usually Christmas Eve.  My father was a conductor for  New York Central Railroad, later to become Penn Central.  He was gone so much of the time. Christmas fell when dad was home, mostly that was Christmas Eve.

Mom always decorated the house beautifully in my opinion.  Our Christmas tree was  a real tree, probably because there were no artificial ones then.  I am not sure about that but I do remember when I saw my first “silver” tree.  We called them foil!  They also came out with white trees.  Do any of you remember those? I think my Grandmother was the first to have one in our family.  They also came out with a color wheel  that spun and had a light in it.  You put that under your tree and the colors spun around lighting and changing your foil tree.

Mom and Dad would bring our freshly cut tree  in and set it up. Mom said we had to wait until it warmed up and the branches dropped.  We could hardly contain our excitement.  That tree made the house smell so good!  It was always too large and had to be cut off, but it was so big and full. It was a perfect tree every time.  Mom or Dad always strung the lights as it was too difficult for us to do and perhaps because they wanted them done properly. We had the lights that made bubbles of liquid run up and down, in multiple colors. They were so pretty I could stare at them for hours. Next came the ornaments.  We would go through the box and we would find our “favorite” and tell the others that we got to hang that one.  We could only reach according to our heights, so the top was left to the older children and mom and dad. We also actually strung popcorn.  We never had the patience to completely do the tree in this but we had some chains of it.  I know a lot went into our stomachs!  Of course, this was popped in a kettle on the stove and not in a microwaved bag.  Incidentally, there was no such thing as a microwave then. We also hung the candy canes and made paper chains. Lastly, mom would precisely hang the tinsel.  It just sparkled and twinkled and made the tree perfect. She would give us the last bit and let us either hang it or toss it.  Such fun! Mom would take crepe paper in red and green and accordion fold it.  Then she opened it and hung it from corner to corner on the ceiling meeting in the middle at the light.  It was beautiful! I think the “old-fashioned” decorations were the best. The pictures below are faded and even though in color, the crepe papers appear red and white and maybe they actually were red and white.  These were taken in 1955 and I would have only been 13 months old, but I wanted to show you what they looked like. The pictures below those are of my sister and I at that same Christmas.  I apologize for the terrible colors of the two with my sister and I, they were restored from negatives and did not turn out well.  I am happy to have them though.

honey and i

The presents began to appear under the tree.  We would assess our presents, pick them up to gauge the weight, shake them, anything to figure out what was in there! We even tried to press the paper flat in an attempt to see if we could read the box. Mom would always tell us to put the present down and not to shake it.  They always rattled.  She said it was just pieces and that Santa would put them together when he came. She said we would  break the pieces and of course if we did not behave, Santa would not fill the presents at all!  We took our chances and picked them up and shook them anyway. She said she had no idea what was in the box because only Santa did when he put the pieces together.  I never knew that Santa put presents together inside of the box!

The day of our Christmas, ALL of the candy was put out on a special table.  She made the good old fashioned candy, all homemade.  There was divinity, fudge rolls, refrigerator fudge, various cookies and pies, peanut butter balls, rum balls, church windows, every type of homemade goodies she could think of.  She even made me chocolate covered cherries! The fudge roll required a lot of stirring by hand, the recipe said stir until it lost it’s gloss.  We had to take turns helping her stir that because it took so long and it got so stiff.  The older, stronger children were the ones who did the stirring at the end. Who knows, that may have just been mom’s way of involving us. You will find the recipe that she used at the end of this article. The candy had real walnuts in it.  We would gather them and dry them and crack them ourselves.  On our candy table was also a variety of nuts that you had to crack yourselves.  Pecans, brazil nuts, hazel nuts, English walnuts and such.  Yum!  Brazil nuts were my favorite and seemingly the hardest to get out.  That pick was constantly used.  Sometimes, you were lucky and got the entire nut to come out at once. I still buy those today and set them out at Christmas. I do not make her fudges and candies, as I never really tried.  I was more interested in meat, potatoes and gravy. I sure do miss the tastes, though. All of the family would arrive and it was time for Christmas!

We would  finish eating and would be playing together, laughing and talking and out of nowhere you could hear sleigh bells ringing!!!  My mom would rush and tell us to get into the bathroom and shut the door!  If Santa knew we were around and still awake, we would get nothing in our boxes!  Boy did we hurry into that room.  We would make it just in time and we could hear his heavy stomping around up on the roof! Then we heard him….. Ho! Ho! Ho!  Gosh, it was certainly hard to stay in that room, but we had been eyeing those presents far too long to take a chance on losing them now! I can still feel the excitement we had while we were waiting.  Waiting and wondering what was beyond that door! We could hear him again stomping on the roof and we were told to come out.

There were so many new presents under the tree and the stockings were now filled.  The room was like an entirely different place, so sparkling and magical looking!  The cookies we left him were gone except for a few straggling crumbs on the plate.  The first thing we did was to head for the present that we had been wondering about and shaking the most.  Amazingly, that present no longer rattled!  Santa really did fill our presents!  Mom and Dad must have some sort of deal with Santa because we always seemed to get just what we wanted. How exciting Christmas was! My mother loved music.  We always had the music playing and we were always dancing.  Near the end of the night Mom would have us sing Christmas songs.  We always sang the joyful songs and we never knew all of the words and we did not sound the best.   We would finish and Mom would say, “one more”.  We knew we had to sing Silent Night.  We were not good singers, well some were but not many of us.  I cannot sing for sure.  However, when our family was together and that song was done, it was the most beautiful thing I have ever heard.  What wonderful memories Mom and Dad left us with.

 

This is a picture of the recipe that was in her cookbook – Granny’s Cookbook.

fudge roll

Mistaken Identity Moments

My husband and I pull into the grocery store parking lot and I see my cousin, we will call her Lucy, and my aunt, we will call her Alice, in a car.  Excitedly, I hop out of the car, tell my husband to hurry, and I run to catch them before they leave.  As I am running to their car, I notice Lucy’s husband, we will call him Chad, returning the cart to the bay. I immediately change directions and run over to him giggling and laughing and begin telling him how good it is to see him.  I grab his arm, link my arm in his and start walking him to the car. Okay, maybe I was actually sort of dragging him to the car.  He was keeping up, though. I point out that my husband is in our car and we both wave to him while happily skipping along. I  motion for my husband to come on as Chad and I are chatting and chatting on the way.  As unbelievable as it is, it should be noted, that sometimes I fail to let people get a word in.  I tell Chad I will give him a hug later, but let’s hurry to the car.  We arrive to the car with Alice and Lucy in it. I start telling Alice and Lucy how thrilled I am to see them, too, and motion for my husband again.  What is taking him so long??!! He is starting to be a bit rude.

I hit them with questions….how long will they be here, when did they get here, will we be getting together and other important questions.  Keeping an eye on my husband, I keep motioning for him to come join, but for some reason he is being all sorts of stubborn! The heck with him, I am excited.  I do not know what his problem is, but  let him stay in the car. I have  noticed that not just him, but everyone is acting sort of weird.  Except for Chad, we are arm in arm and still both smiling and laughing.  Strange that he is more excited to see me than the others because he is not as close to me, being that he is a new in-law.

Finally, Lucy asks who I am with. I am a bit puzzled and thinking she is odd  What an unusual thing to ask. Chad and I look at each other and we both laugh.  Aunt Alice and Lucy just shrug.  Chad and I laugh again.  They are so funny! We start talking about a good game of Rummy being started but Aunt Alice, a little perturbed, interrupts asking who the guy is. Chad and  I shake our heads and laugh.  Why are they continuing this charade? Seeming perturbed herself, again, Lucy asks who.  They are doing a good job playing this whole bewildered act because I am actually believing that they are.

Finallly, a bit annoyed, I  sigh heavily with something like well, duh…it is your husband.  Her eyes widen a bit, she is sort of looking a tad bit shocked and perhaps a little fearful.  I laugh and she widens her eyes more and shakes her head. I look at Aunt Alice with questioning eyes and she frowns. a little worried looking, and shakes her head.  Still clinging to Chad’s arm, I look up to him and without missing a beat, he smiles and says, “Does this mean I am not going to get that hug now?”   HaHa! What a way to relieve an awkward situation!  At this moment, I realize Chad is a lot like me! He, too, just plows through an embarrassing moment! I could not have picked a better stranger to haul around with me!  I look over to see where my husband is and he is, of course, still in the car.  He holds his hands up like he is not surprised at all and shakes his head.

Instead of looking for that ever elusive hole to climb into, undaunted, here I go…. still smiling, I am like, “Well, what is your name?”  He says. “Joe.”  I introduce him to everyone and question him as to why he came with me and let me drag him all over the parking lot.  He so politely smiled and said  that I never really gave him the chance to say anything. He said that I was so nice to him and seemed so happy to see him that he just could not embarrass me.  He indicated that  he had no idea I would find out otherwise as he figured I would finish talking and he would just be on his way.  He did not think I was going to drag him around to meet my family! What a good sport!  HaHa.  Well, just so you know, I did give Joe his hug!!  I think he was deserving after all of that!  
Now, to confront my husband!  I go back to our car and the first thing he tells me is that from the minute I went to get that guy he knew that I never knew him.  He added that he also knew that I thought I knew him.  Further, he enjoyed watching the whole thing and he knew the guy had no clue as to who I was. He preferred to stay in the car and watch all of this unfold. I was in such disbelief that he knew all of this before I even told him.  Did Mr. Know-It-All stop me?  No!! Why would he not come to me when I motioned for him and save me?  He said he wanted to see how I would get out of this one.  I may return the favor some day!
In retrospect, maybe I was a little confused myself because Joe did not really resemble Chad at all.  He actually looked just like Lucy’s brother, Stevie.  I guess I was hungry for family! I have occasionally bumped in to Joe at the store and I still speak to him.  You never know how you will end up making new friends!

Bathroom Blunders

Do NOT sit on that toilet seat!  Line that seat with toilet paper, says your mother.  Like any good child, I obey my mother.   

So, you are out dancing and you are having a great time with all of your family and  friends.   You have to go to the bathroom.  Once there, you hear your favorite song being played.  You just have to dance, so rushing as best that you can, you hurry off the toilet, wash your hands and run to the dance floor.  You made it!  You rush  to dance with your niece.  You and your niece go back to your table and your mother and your husband ask you what you have hanging behind you.  You know instantly what it is!  You wonder why they did not stop you from dancing around with this tail behind you.  How could they do this??  Any of you who have lined the toilet with paper know that sometimes when you stand up, this toilet paper can get pulled up with your jeans leaving this toilet paper tail hanging out of them.  The entire place saw me and my tail dancing around the floor. Ugh!  Do I just want to grab my purse and leave now?  To make matters worse, I have to remove that tail and as I am standing at the table with these decisions to make, EVERYONE at the table is laughing hysterically and making all sorts of jokes and comments.  You know, like I will always have some paper in case the bathroom runs out.  I can always have a tissue for my nose if needed.  Did I feel like a little bunny? They are going on and on. I feel positive that the entire place is watching and my tail is still there. I am totally embarrassed and slightly miffed. I do not always plow through embarrassing moments and carry on, sometimes I actually am ready to crawl into that hole. My sister, who never has felt uncomfortable in any situation, just laughs and reaches over and pulls off my tail.  I may have even been called Eeyore a time or two, but I can guarantee you, I did not go looking for my tail when I lost it!  I guess that is better than when girls wore nylon hose and after a bathroom visit they have tucked their dress into their hose exposing a nylon covered rear end with their underpants glaring brightly for all to see. I have felt so sorry for those girls when I see them.  I have seen this several times and I have also noticed that not one single person tells them as they are walking around like this. I would rather have the tail, so I guess I should not complain. 
Imagine being out to eat with your husband and pastor and his wife.  You go to the bathroom and someone is in there so you have to wait.  The person in there was  so quiet, I was not sure someone was actually there.  I said  something to them and they did not answer.  I bent over to see if there were feet under the stall and there were, so naturally I try striking up a conversation to no avail. I finally left and went to have a seat at the table to  wait my turn.  I tell my friends that someone is in there and I have to wait my turn. I say to them that I don’t remember there being only one toilet stall in there and what a short,  little “sink” there is in there!  My husband said he found that odd.  I even remarked about the girl in there having these ugly shoes and how big her feet were. I explain my story to them.  Our food arrives and we begin to eat and I see the person come out of the bathroom.  I am appalled and exclaim  to the table, “That is a guy!  A guy was in our bathroom!!”  They turn around to look and say, “you went to the men’s restroom!”  There is an outbreak of laughter while I am about to die from embarrassment.  The guy, appearing to be a young teenager, goes over to his table and does not take his seat.  He is  standing there talking to his group of people. My husband decides to narrate the situation with things such as look, he is telling them how a pedophile came into the bathroom with him, how the parents are wanting to call the police,  does he recognize me anywhere, can he tell by my voice, etc.   The pastor and his wife are laughing more and more.   I cannot believe I did that.  Remember, I even looked under the stall and spoke to this young man.  He must have been so uncomfortable wondering when I would leave and shut up.  I feel so terrible for possibly scaring him.   Also, that little sink…. was not a sink after all.  Will I ever learn?  When we go out to eat now I am told to make sure it says WOmen and not MEN.  By the way, that particular women’s bathroom does, in fact, have several stalls and the “sinks” are to regulation height. 
When I was a little girl, 3 or 4, my mother was expecting company and rushing to get ready. My older brother was giving me my bath, helping get us kids ready. Everything went well, but the company arrived earlier than expected and my brother rushed out to get something.  Somehow, I was locked in the bathroom.  Of course, my mother was especially worried as I was too small to get out of the tub and she worried an accident may happen, falling, drowning, anything. There was not a keyhole to insert anything in the knob to open the door with, not even a pass key type thing. The company had arrived and I was still in  there. It took a great deal of effort to get me out of there.  They had to wait for my father to get home to figure it out.  They all were at the door talking with me to prevent me from getting hurt. I think they ended up taking the hinges off of the door when my father got home.  I am not sure as I was so very young, but they have retold the story several times.  They must think my misfortunes are funny.   So, first they lock me in the bathroom and then they forget me in a doctor’s office that locked the doors and closed up, as you read earlier. Haha.  Should I have a complex or what?? 

When I was pregnant with my first baby, we lived in an older house.  The bathroom had its issues.  Pregnant women, cannot venture far from the bathroom especially near the end of their term as it seems babies take residency on your bladder.  This was a small two bedroom home with only one bathroom. This one time I desperately needed to go but my husband was using it.  I thought he would never get off of that toilet!  I was loudly urging him to get out of there.  When he finally was finished I barely gave him time to get out of there and rushed to the toilet. I was so relieved to finally have my turn.  I sat down and remarkably, I never came to a stop.  What the heck??? The toilet fell through the floor!  So, here I am pregnant, sitting on a toilet like sitting in a recliner, my back against the wall and my feet in the air.  Don’t forget my pants are down and I still cannot go to the bathroom, in this position.  Being of short stature and pregnant, I cannot lift myself off of this toilet. I am in there, arms flapping around and legs swinging.  I am sure screaming was done as well. You can imagine the incidents that followed, I am sure. I do not need to go into detail nor will I. Haha.  Then, I remember I still have to go to the bathroom.  I don’t remember if we drove to a public bathroom or my mother’s or if my husband suggested to use the sink or the tub and I don’t really know what we did. I am pretty sure I would not have tried either of his suggestions, but I do not remember.  Desperation sometimes can take over.  We found that the floor was totally rotted through and my brother remodeled the bathroom! Anyone could have fallen through it, it had nothing to do with my weight, it was the timing.   My husband, not always thinking before he speaks either, claims I am so fat since I am pregnant I break the toilet and fall through the floor!  He suddenly becomes a broadcaster assuring the entire town knows this story. (He still uses this as the reason whenever he tells the story again.) Haha.  He is so funny! I claim he wore it down sitting on it so long before me.That is my story and I am sticking to it!


It is a wonder that I don’t have some sort of phobia regarding bathrooms!  How ironic is it that 27 years later, one of my best friends has a hobby/passion for “bathroom selfies”.  At public establishments, before the night is over, she manages to coerce as many people as she can into the bathroom and takes the selfie, herself in front holding the camera, everyone smiling,  and posts it to social media.  I have only agreed once to  be in her pictures.  With her permission, I could possibly post some of those photos here. She is becoming famous.  Sometimes people approach her asking to be in the selfie with her! Again, I am thankful there were no cell phones available back then, I am sure someone would have wanted that picture of me falling through the floor while on a toilet. Maybe we would have won $10,000.00?  

Hitching A Ride

We often visited my husband’s family, a 45 minute trip. One particular time, I do not remember why but on the way home, my husband wanted me to drive.  We had four of the children with us, the two youngest and the two oldest.  He pulled over on the highway and stopped the van and told me to just climb over to the driver side and he would walk around. He is such a gentleman.  Too bad I am not as nice as he is!

He gets out of the van and helps me over to the driver seat and I get adjusted.  He then begins to walk around. I whisper to the kids that I am going to pretend to drive off to tease him.  He deserves this because every time we go to get in the van, he will edge forward and then backward while he is laughing at us walking forward and backward trying to get in to the van.  As you all know, a van does not really have much of a hood.  As we are slowly pulling away pretending that we are leaving, he quickly jumps on to the front of the van and is hanging on to the place where the wipers are hidden on the windshield.  You know where I mean, there is a small groove/trough type area he can hang on to.  Of course, I was not driving, I was just sitting there. The kids and I are dying laughing and I have the window down.  My husband has his head turned away from the road and is just lying on the van. He is all spread out, arms and legs stretched to the max and is out of breath and sort of panting. The way he has himself positioned there, he appears to be smashed to the front of the van and looks to be hanging on for dear life.  It actually looks as if he is attempting to keep the car from moving forward and is applying ever so much exertion that he is wearing himself out. What an actor!  He is pretty strong, but…..

A car approaches from the other direction and pulls up and stops.  So, you are picturing the entire thing, a guy sprawled across a van appearing to hang on for dear life and trying to stop the van from driving off with a woman behind the wheel laughing in delight. If you knew my husband you would fully appreciate this and you should have seen his facial expressions and body language.  He is just sprawled there lifeless looking and making such a face, looking sort of defeated all spread out across the windshield. A giant hood ornament! The driver of the car, is here to save my husband and found none of this humorous at all!  The more concerned the driver looked, the harder we laughed and the angrier the driver  seemed to become.  My husband is still just lying there portraying his part of the abused guy.  If I could have ever stopped laughing, I would have explained to the driver what we were doing, but everything just kept making us laugh more and I could barely breathe for laughing. He assesses the situation and sees me and all of the children just sitting there not even attempting to help this poor man, just laughing at his misfortune.  He then sort of glares at me and turns toward  my husband.  He says to my husband, “Buddy, do you need some help?”  That is all it took, now we totally lose it, we are hysterical.    Not my husband, straight faced as can be he gasps, “No, thanks, I am alright!”  and adjusts his grip on the car. Since he was trying not to laugh and to talk at the same time my husband’s voice sounded weak and as if he were gasping for air.  The driver looked so compassionate and concerned about him, his eyes keep going from my husband with compassion to me with hate.  Again, more laughing. That driver thinks I am heartless and a murderer, I just know it!  It is like he knows that my husband needs help but in the position he is in, he has to refuse help.  Our laughter is uncontrollable now.  My husband turns his head the other direction and tries to stifle his laugh. I can see him trying to look up at me without moving his head and he is cracking up. He is loving this because the joke we tried to pull on him has backfired and he is getting all of this special attention while I am the bad guy.

I am beginning to wonder how to get out of it.  Will this guy ever just drive off and leave us alone?  It seems he just is at a loss of what to do.  He wants to help, but the guy is refusing it. He finally just shakes his head looking fed up and pulls away not seeing the humor in this at all. As he is driving away, he keeps looking back and shaking his head in contempt worried about my husband’s fate yet thinking he was stupid enough to turn down help. I am sure that he is having second thoughts about leaving this man with those crazy people. I wish we would have had cell phones back then to video it, but it we had them, I am sure the police would have been called and on the scene.

Have any of you been in a situation you needed to get out of but just could not?  I am sure.  Haha.  Please comment below.

Most Remembered Walmart Moment – Tell me yours

The Walmart stories are always abounding.  There are the videos of the people of Walmart and how they dress and various other “Walmart” stories going around. I, too, have numerous stories but I will not put those on here as most of them are negative.  Negativity brings you down and I would rather try to focus on the positive because it helps you retain your good mood.  It feels like a chore enough to “have” to go to Walmart and moreso when you have all of the negative encounters there.  I am going to share a story that, in my opinion, is just a tiny bit humorous, at least to me. Then I am inviting you to share your story here.  You can share whatever type you like, positive or negative, but please feel free to do so!

My husband and I always shop together and sometimes he is a real clown.  (The ones who know us are probably saying right now, “Sometimes?”) We were entering the store and I, grabbed hold of a shopping cart.  For some reason, the cart was being stubborn and I could not get it to release.  I then noticed that it seemed as thought as I was pulling, it was being pulled in the opposite direction.  I made several attempts to free up this cart. I finally figured out that it was my husband jerking on it.  By this time I was frustrated and mildly angry.  (Again, those who know us are probably saying right now, “Mildly?”) I simultaneously grabbed the cart whirled around to face him, pulled on the cart with all of my strength, made an angry face and stomped my foot! I also made some sort of angry sounding sigh.Okay, maybe it was some sort of a growl! Some man, who was not my husband, released the cart and said, “Just take the cart, lady!”
Why does my husband always walk off and leave me.  This was not the first time I have interacted with a stranger behind me that I assumed was my husband!  Words of apology started flying out of my mouth.  I proceeded to tell the man that I thought he was my husband and fell all over myself with kind words.  The man just walked off.  
Well, now my husband appears.  I told him the story and asked him to stop leaving me because this happens all of the time.  I told him that I explained to that man that I thought he was my husband.  Without missing a beat, my husband asked me, “Did he feel sorry for me when you told him that you thought he was my husband?”  That changed my mood and had me laughing.  However, some things never change, he still wanders off and I still make a complete fool of myself grabbing strangers behind me and saying inappropriate things.  Does this stop me?  No, I will continue embarrassing myself.  It would be okay but that doesn’t even stop me.  Once I am embarrassed, I try to talk my way out of it and this often times makes it worse.  
Alright, now I want you to please share your story here.  It doesn’t even have to be very long, just a comment or memory will be fine. 

The Two Older Brothers….. Some Pranks And Some Stories.

It seems like my memories of my oldest brother were of him not living at home.  He was 13 years older, so I do not remember him being at home with us much.  He did visit all of the time, though. Or maybe he was living there, I honestly do not remember.  I remember having the mumps and he gave me some awards that he had won and they were on his boy scout uniform.  He pinned them to my pajamas.  I was so proud to have them!  I remember him playing with me and making me laugh, but most of my memories are of him grown and I have plenty of those to share later! This brother is the one who came up with the idea to walk the barrels.  He was full of ideas and such fun!

My little brother was three years younger than me.  He and I had to get immunizations. I was on the exam table and my brother, being so young, was on my mother’s lap.  The doctor gave him his shot in the butt and he started screaming and crying.  He cried so much he quit breathing.  They all went running out of the room.  It seemed I was on that table forever!  I kept thinking if only I could jump down or if I could just reach this or that.  There was some pretty interesting stuff on that tray and counter and all shiny, too! What a long time I sat there. It got very dark in my room because the hallway suddenly went very dark. I wondered when they would come back in.  It turns out, they all took off for the hospital which was just up the road. The doctor told my mom that he was sorry and pronounced him dead.  She screamed at him to do something!  It turns out, the doctor was able to clear my brother’s throat from mucous and bring him back to life.  My mother said that he stuck a tube down his throat and sucked it up into his own mouth and then spit it out.  My little brother checked out fine, so he sent my mother home with her baby and called the office and told them to close up!  Hey!!! What about me???  No wonder I am like I am.  Left, locked in and forgotten about! That could cause a complex!  She got home and asked my older brother where I was.  He said he thought I was with her. She thought he took me with him when he left.  They made some calls and they found someone to check the doctor’s office.  They found that I was, in fact, at the doctor’s office, locked in, all by myself.  My brother came and picked me up.  The nurse or receptionist, someone who let him in, asked if I would like a sucker and extended a little jar of suckers for me to pick from.  I said I wanted the whole jar.  They both laughed and she gave them to me.  I had like a little bouquet of suckers and I felt that I deserved them.  It felt so good to hold my little bouquet.  When I got home my mother said she would keep those suckers for me.  Yeah, right, I didn’t get very many of them. You know, too much sugar and blah, blah. I have a newspaper article about my little brother being pronounced dead. I am sure glad they were able to save him!

My next to the oldest brother was 10 years older.  Mom and dad use to have him  babysit while they went shopping or on errands.  Boy do I have memories of that!  As soon as they left he would make us clean up the house and he took the credit for doing it.  Mom and Dad just thought it was wonderful how great he was to do that!  They loved it!!! Of course, we knew better than to bust him out for it and admit it was us.  Believe me, later in life we told them it was us!  Who wants to go though life without credit?

If we misbehaved he would have us stand in the corner and put our noses up to the wall with our hands behind our backs.  After a few seconds he would say something like don’t you move, but, uh, oh, there is a spider crawling down that corner right by your nose! Yep, we were scared!  After a few times of this happening, we knew to ignore him.  He would have my little brother do something like wrestling with me.  He made an area to use as a ring and he would have us wrestle there until he ended the round.  I think we had to go only 3 rounds or so.  He would read a magazine and look up from time to time and say round over. He would forget once in awhile to stop us and my sister would get mad at him and he would say round over. Sometimes he would have us put a piece of bread in our mouths so it looked like we had mouth guards in   He was not brutal, do not get the wrong idea.  He was just being an older brother. He was fun and we loved him.

We were always in the woods playing.  I remember going down there with my brother this one time and I was so totally excited when I found these huge sand piles.  Someone had piled them up into great big hills.  I went running for them and my brother was telling me not to.  He was not babysitting today, so who did he think he was?  I jumped right into the big hill of sand and kept jumping and jumping.   It was such fun.  My brother was running up to get me and I wondered why he did not want me to play in the sand.  That was just mean of him.  All of a sudden, I started screaming and screaming.  My brother picked me up and ran up the hill with me and started taking my clothes off.  I was screaming my head off.  Mom and dad came running out of the house and my brother told them I had been jumping on an ant hill.  My mom took me in and put me right in the bath tub. No wonder he did not want me playing in the sand. Man-oh-man, can those things bite!  I do not know what they really were but we called them army ants. Well, that is the story my brother told anyway.  He told me I was so lucky because those army ants were called that because they pulled soldiers down in to their holes and ate them.  He told me it did not really matter if you were a soldier, they would eat you anyway and thankfully he saved me.  I had no idea about these things and had  never seen them before.  There were 4 or 5 of those huge “sand piles” in the woods. I don’t remember seeing them much after that so I think that Dad must have done something to get rid of them.  They were something to see, though.

My brother and his friend were burning the trash one time and some how the woods caught on fire.  It was the woods, but several of our out buildings were nearby and then our house. My older brother was called and he came right over. I have no recollection really of how it happened but what I do remember is that there was no volunteer fire department then and the city fire department would not come out to the country  My mom just called the radio station and people started arriving with shovels and gunny sacks.  They would wet the gunny sacks and swat at the fire.  We had to pump water from the well. Trenches were dug beyond the parameters of the fire to hopefully stop it from spreading but the fire just kept spreading.  The radio station kept announcing updates and asking anyone who could come to come out.   More and more people arrived.  It was unreal how many people showed up.  How nice everyone was back then, so kind and loving and willing to help.  We need more of that today. There was a back hoe parked over in a field and someone suggested calling the owner and asking him to come help since the hoe was just right there.  They called and he came too.  The fire was finally extinguished without damage to any homes or buildings.  Whew!  So thankful that people were so kind. It sure makes you thankful for the volunteer fire fighters!!!!!  If any of you reading this remember this, please comment.

Both of my older brothers were hunters.  Although the older brother did not live at home, he would come over bright and early in the mornings and go rabbit hunting with my other brother.They would hunt in our woods and bring back rabbits and immediately clean them for breakfast.  My brothers had these green coats with huge pockets and they would fill the pockets with the rabbits they got.  I never liked seeing that.    Sometimes, I was elected to hold two of the legs while they gutted the rabbit.  As you can imagine  this was not my favorite thing to do at all! It took two people, one to hold the front legs and one to hold the back legs and then stretch tightly.  The third person would cut it up the middle and gut it. Mom would make fried rabbit, biscuits and gravy.  How would you want to eat that after witnessing the cleaning anyway? I would never eat it after only one time of tasting it.   I did not care for the flavor, but the rest of the family loved it.  My mom, at some times, would try to trick me and tell me she made chicken.  I was not that stupid.  I have never seen a chicken leg have that bend in it.  I would tell her I knew she was trying to trick me and that chickens did not have elbows or knees in their legs that bent like that. She was so frustrated, she wanted me to like it. To me, that meat had an unforgettable twang to it. People call it a gamey taste.  Well, apparently I do not like a gamey taste!  I could not even tolerate the taste the rabbit gave the gravy. What a cruel thing to do.   Homemade gravy is the best, how could you ruin the flavor of it with rabbit?

You may not like this story, but I still to this day think this is a good story.  Rabbit hunting was done in the winter and Christmas is in the winter.  The whole family loves a good joke and we are a bunch of pranksters.  My big brother was always there when we did this, too. My dad came up with this idea of leaving a wrapped present alongside the road and watching out the window to see who picked it up. This present was always the fanciest wrapped gift you would ever see. They put the nicest of ribbons around it and a beautiful big bow on top. The trees had all lost their leaves so we could place the nicely wrapped gift a bit down the road from our house and watch the cars stop and get the present. Not a lot of cars came by so there was a little bit of a wait. Not one car ever went on by, though.  Some may accidentally  pass it but they would screech the brakes and back up! They would open the door and get out and look around to see if anyone noticed them.  They would try to nonchalantly pick up the present and put it in their car. Inside of that nicely wrapped gift  was a box full of the rabbit guts!  Terrible, I know, but so funny.  When the cars stopped to get the present,  they could not stand to wait and they would  hurry down the road and turn at the first  corner and park the car to investigate their wonderful treasure. They were parked where we could perfectly see them.  It never took too long for them to suddenly open the door and throw that gift right out in the ditch and speed off!  Oh did we laugh! Hmmm, I suppose you should not take something that is not yours.  What if some poor person had lost that gift and came back looking for it?  They may have learned a lesson.  No, I doubt that they learned a lesson, I bet they were just furious! That thought made us laugh even harder. In fact, we still laugh today, just thinking about it.   You may disagree with our joke, but well ….we all had a lot of  laughs over it. It certainly helped to pass a winter day and there is an old saying…. it is better to give than to receive.!?

Life After The Farm….

So, we had the farm life…. the animals were fun.  Sarah, the cow, you know about.  Harold the goat gave milk and Elmer the pig gave birth to little piglets. Shows you what us kids knew about animals!  Well, the farm venture came and went and our mother and father decided to change the barn up. Stories of all of  our outdoor ventures and “play time” will be posted later.

They remodeled and put in wooden floors and a “kitchen” area.  They started square dances on Saturday nights with food and drink for sale as well!  They started a night of dancing for Western dances also. That really took off so they added an extra night of dance and had “teen” dances too.  The barn really rocked!  So, so many good times were had there.  People even came from out of state to dance.  All of the music, both for the country dances and the teen dances, were live bands.  We really got to meet a lot of interesting people. My mother could really dance, she was always listening to music and dancing everywhere. My father could pick up any instrument and play it.  He loved the saxophone and the harmonica.  He always had the harmonica in his mouth. He had a piano for a while and he had an accordion.  Mom and Dad are probably why we all had such a love for music and dance! They were always trying their hand at different things. They loved people and they loved children which is why they started the teen dances too.

One night at a dance, a huge black snake dangled down from the hayloft and was swinging from the rafter in the middle of the dance floor.  My brother and his friend came to the rescue.  The friend grabbed the snake and ran outside.  The dance went on but some of us ran outside to see what happened with the snake.  The friend said “Watch this!”  He took the snake by the tail and like a rope he swung the snake around and around and then he jerked on it.  The head of the snake came off and a bird flew out!  The bird did not fly out as birds fly out,  he flew out as in propelled out of the snake.  The bird, of course, was dead as snakes swallow their food whole you know.  My friend and I were watching the whole thing.  As the bird came out, my friend put her hand to her mouth in a gasp and the bird actually hit her right in the arm pit.  I will never forget this entire scene.  As gross as it was, we all broke into laughter.  The dances were great fun for us kids. We had so many children we could play with at the dances.

Mom served sandwiches, chips, coffee, soda and pies. Her pies were so well loved, people would request she make an entire pie just for them to purchase and take home with them! She served this homemade barbecue on Saturday nights and everyone loved it!!

Barbecue — that lead to a couple of other ventures.  My next to the oldest brother was drafted and served in Vietnam.  Sad, sad day when he left!  I will probably talk more about that later.  Vietnam was not good for anyone.  It not only affected the young men, it affected their entire families.  The young men were never the same, in my opinion.

He loved mom’s barbecue.  He said he sure wished he could have some.  That request was all it took to set mom into action!  Dad  found a place that would process her food and put it in tin cans like the type vegetables came in.  (I hesitated to say she had it canned because to me, I think of people canning things in mason jars and preserving foods.This was actually in a can.) They mailed him about 7 cans and some buns. My brother said they warmed it with some sort of torch or lighter while it was in the can. He shared it with his friends and said it was the best ever.  That lead to mom and dad starting a barbecue drive.  There were articles in the paper and mom called various businesses and people and got monetary donations as well as ingredients donated.  What was not donated, mom and dad gave. She took names of other soldiers in the area so that she could send them some too. They got it canned and shipped it overseas to the boys!  Mom and dad had such good hearts!

Mom’s great cooking lead to the opening of a restaurant with home cooked meals and baked goods. My father always, always encouraged her to do these things.  He was her greatest fan, he believed in her and they did these ventures together.  They were always supportive of each other. Granny’s Kitchen and Bakery was opened and it was a success.  My little brother remodeled the building they rented up on the town square.  He built the booths and tables.  It was beautiful!  He was the grill cook and she cooked the main entrees and sides and did the baking. Dad did whatever was needed from him. Dad, however, was a retired railroader.  He was now working across the street at the courthouse as a bailiff. He was at the restaurant all that he could be, though.  My wonderful aunt did the dishes and helped in all areas that she could.  My sister-in-law was the waitress along with some others who were hired.  Some of our cousins were waitresses, (mom and dad’s nieces).  A lot of family was involved at Granny’s. I later moved home and helped waitress as well.  Actually everyone pitched in wherever they may have been needed.

All of the dinners were home made too. I do not remember the exact hours but I know they were opened for breakfast, perhaps 6:00 a.m. or 7:00 a.m..  I know we were there working at 4:00 a.m. The “coffee drinkers” came every morning and we always had such good times with the customers.  Breakfast was served all day. I thought the biscuits and gravy were the best!  I remember that the lunch special was $1.90.  What a deal, too!  You were served more than enough.  Lasagne was served every Wednesday and bright and early Wednesday mornings the calls would start coming in for pick up orders.  The lasagne was a huge hit and several pans were made of it.  My favorite was swiss steak.  I have yet to be able to make it taste like hers, even when I attempt to follow the recipe.

She had a bakery case at the front of the store that was filled with so many delicious baked goods  Her cinnamon rolls were highly sought after!  People would come from out of town on a Saturday and purchase enough for the entire week.  The cinnamon rolls were as large as the saucer! They were extra good when warmed and topped with melted butter and, of course, you would need a cold, cold glass of milk! She made a cookie/cake type of dessert called candy bars.  Those were my favorite.  It was an oatmeal cookie/cake dough with caramels and chocolate chips layered on top and then more of the cookie dough. There were sugar cookies, oatmeal cookies, chocolate chip cookies and a variety of other cookies, cakes, bars,  and any type of pie you could think of including cream pies. She made everything you could imagine. They did not serve supper.  They tried that but there were not that many customers in the evening.  The uptown square area sort of went to sleep when the businesses closed.  It did not use to be that way, but the times have changed.  The shopping establishments, theaters, barbers, etc.  moved away from the square and the courthouse and law offices seem to have taken over. They stayed open for after the bars but that was not profitable either.  Therefore, the closing time was 4:00 p.m. rather than right after lunch rush because the employees on the square would come for an afternoon snack.  She had a cook book published with all of her goodies in it.  I may post that cookbook on here at some point or on face book and link it here for you.

This was, I believe, their last big venture.  In between the barn dances and the restaurant, she was chairman for the Cystic Fibrosis foundation.  There will be a post just for this at a later date in order to keep this post shorter.

In summary, mom and dad were such great parents.  They worked so hard in life and yet continued to do things to help others.  They were a great example and so very loving. Our house was always filled with friends and family.  Cards or some sort of game was always being played. When one of us children moved out, our friends still would go to mom and dad’s and hang with them!  Anyone that came to visit was always offered something to eat.  If  nothing quick was available, mom would cook them something.  I have never met anyone like them.  Their sense of humor, their pranks, the fun they made, the love they gave, it is hard to actually describe just how they were. They loved laughing and made any situation into a fun situation even if you were waiting in a long line or whatever you were doing, it ended up being fun! They never knew a stranger.  You actually just had to know them. If you did, and would like to share a memory below in the comments, please do so.

 

Thanksgiving….

Thanksgiving… what can you say about Thanksgivings?  The memories of old when you were a child with your family, the memories of you with your children and your family, the memories when the children grow up and leave.

Thanksgiving memories as a youth—- the night before and the morning of was such a flurry of activity.  The smells in the house were awesome!  Sometimes family would arrive the night before and how thankful we were that they made it in, what with the snow storm.  There is hardly a snow storm on Thanksgiving now as the weather has changed and continues to do so.  There was snow by early November and it actually stayed on the ground until the January thaw. It was such fun to play in the snow on Thanksgiving with all of the relatives.

Everything was homemade, of course.  Mom made several types of home made pies, chocolate, pecan, raisin cream, coconut cream, mincemeat and of course, pumpkin! She was noted as the best baker, ever!  Everyone loved her pies.  There were homemade noodles (my favorite), turkey, mashed potatoes, gravy, sweet potatoes with marshmallows, several types of dressing: sage, oyster and chestnut,  cranberry salad, homemade rolls, gosh, I cannot even remember all of the food.  One of my favorite memories every Thanksgiving was tearing several loaves of  bread into pieces for the different dressings.  When we woke up, the television was always on with the Thanksgiving parade on, which I remember as being  much better back then. We would tear the bread while watching the parade.  It was always so exciting to see Santa at the end!  That set the mood for decorating for Christmas that night.  The family was huge!  Great, great times.  Those memories will probably be brought up later as they come to mind in my other posts.

Thanksgiving memories as a mother…. Our children were too young to remember my mother’s Thanksgivings which is a shame.  My father passed away before our children were even born.  My mother passed away when our youngest girl was 4 months old.  By the time our children were in their early teens, I lost my sister and two brothers, so my family is greatly diminished.  Most of my nieces and nephews are not even in the state, so it is rare to see them on a holiday.  One of my brothers still lived in town until he passed away and his wife and children usually stop by every Thanksgiving night and play games and visit, etc. We enjoy those times together. The Thanksgivings on my husband’s side were held at his grandmother’s  She had a large two story farm house and there were so, so many people there.  The children had other children to play with and they probably have memories like I do of my childhood Thanksgivings but I do not know for sure their memories and feelings.  There was lots of family, though, and that is what I think is the most important.

Our children have moved out and the Thanksgivings are not what they use to be. So many of the family have passed away, some have split up with their boyfriends or girlfriends and some have divorced.  We miss each and every one of them and still love them all!  We are still thankful to be together but we all miss the gathering of a large amount of family. We do stray from tradition, though. None of us much care for the standard turkey and I have a gluten issue, so we eat differently but it is all still good, good food, at least in our opinion. This year our appetizers were chips and salsa and chips and hummus. We had Apple crisp, cherry crisp, sweet potato casserole, mashed potatoes, scalloped potatoes, scalloped corn, chili, lasagna, ham, beef and rice, green beans, red hot jello, corn bread muffins, deviled eggs, and more. It sounds like a weird combination, but this way everyone has something they like.

Nothing can be done about the ones who are no longer with us and the ones who live far away are probably feeling the same about the losses and longing for older times,  but we do not linger on those thoughts. All of us are thankful for the family we do have.  We create our new memories and carry on and have a wonderful time.  We try to make each one special and memorable.

Something you notice about life, it truthfully repeats itself as does history.  Your thanksgivings are huge and then people die off and break up and they dwindle, then new family is added by marriage, dating, birth of children and they again are huge.  People die off and they dwindle again, then they grow again. I hope that this is a little bit encouraging to you who are missing the larger old time thanksgivings.  There will be larger and new ones again.  Make the most of your times together and have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Do not dwindle on the past, remember it with a smile, share some of your memories with laughter at dinner or after dinner and have a good, good time.  Do not miss out on your blessings that you have right in front of you.

I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving!

FIRST METAL CONCERT – AGE 63

synovialAs you can tell from the title, this will not be a continuance of my previous blogs.  I feel like I need to talk about this concert. I will most likely jump around like this from time to time.  Perhaps one post a week will be the continuance and the second will be a different subject if I feel prompted. I have never been one to stick to a program or plan.  I am spontaneous so here goes.

Our son loves going to metal concerts.  We have never understood this and we could barely stand to listen to what we called screaming, for lack of a better term, but it seemed more like screaming with a growling effect at the same time.  We wondered how anyone could even speak after singing like that.  Our son said you have to use your throat a certain way and it does not even bother you.  He sings that way sometimes at karaoke.  He sounds like the other people who do it so I assume that would mean he does a pretty good job.

He has a very good friend who has a band, Synovial.  Through our son’s facebook posts, we have listened to his friend and have tried to support them because it was something our son loved.  It started out when there was a contest Synovial was having  where you had to listen to a song and hear an animal sound and post exactly where that sound appeared in the song.  We claimed all of it sounded like animals. Ha ha.  Well, being a bit competitive I was determined to find that animal and win this contest and feel proud that a 63 year old woman could find it before the young ones.  No one could find it and we were later told what song it was in. Different ones commented on how you had to have these special ear phones to hear it on and all sorts of “helps” were posted.  This animal was NOT to be found. There was a funny post, in my opinion anyway. Synovial finally had to reveal that the animal was a cow.  Our son responded to his friend in Synovial, “You’re a cow.”  For some reason this sticks in my mind and makes me laugh every time it comes to mind.  I guess I can now say well, at least they are good for a laugh!  (Just kidding)  I feel like I finally did hear the cow but not knowing how to operate the starting and stopping of the video properly, I missed it by a few seconds.  I received a Synovial T-shirt in the mail anyway!  Now, we have found that they are fun and they are nice. A lot is to be said about the character of any young band or young person these days that are nice to older people and take the time to respond to them.  They have responded EVERY single time.

 

We have kept up on their posts and have shared their posts when they have needed a few more likes on their page to get to a certain number, when they will be appearing, and other posts to  try to support them.  I even ordered their second style of t-shirt when it came out.   Recently Synovial shared a post regarding a concert they would be at with three other bands – all the same type.  They were hoping for a good turn out. We told our son that if they were going to go to that concert, we would go with them.  He responded with the statement, “You guys are awesome!”  We both were able to get off of work on that date and all we had to do was wait for that date. 
After we committed, we had several thoughts and concerns.  What did we get ourselves into? Why would we want to go hear that music that we considered to be nothing but noise?  Why would we want to mostly stand all of that time?  Why would we want to make that long drive?  How could we get out of this?  It all boiled down to one simple answer.  We love our children and we want to support what they do. Just by saying we would attend made our son so happy. We want to spend as much time with our children while we  can and make sure that they have plenty of memories.  (Of course, we would like for them to have good memories.) We want to support their friends, Synovial. No more questions or concerns, we just needed to wait for the date.  We were even smart enough to purchase some ear plugs in order to make it through this.
We drove 2 1/2 hours to pick up our son and his girlfriend, ate lunch and then were off  for a further drive of 3 1/2  hours to the concert. We were a little late but still were able to see the first group play.  Upon entering, lots of people had ear plugs so we did not feel like we were insulting anyone.  Now we realize these young people are smart as well and know the need to protect their hearing.  Now, the character of these “screaming musicians” is that of a sense of humor, kind and smart!  Wow!  Who would have thought that?  See what happens when you judge?
First group up…. Endostalgia.  I have never been to an establishment like that before and was really impressed with it, beautiful building and beautiful stage!  When I got  through the door and and saw  the stage and those young people up there…oh my gosh, I immediately broke into a smile.  Hearing them sing and watching the kids jumping up and down along with the group in time to the song … I cannot really describe all of my feelings.  I know I was smiling so big and LOVED the music.  The “screaming musicians” sound so different in person, I actually liked the songs! I was totally impressed.  The song ended and I finally was able to look away and turn to my husband, his face had the same smile and he seemed to enjoy it as well.

In some of the facebook banter with Synovial, we made a post saying something about Synovial being good but wow for Endostalgia, and posted a picture of  the Endostalgia emblem that we have hanging on our refrigerator with a magnet. When Endostalgia finished playing I saw the singer walk by and decided he may not speak but I was going to tell him how impressed we were with them and how much we liked them. Of course, it was sort of an insult before a compliment, because I never think before I speak and what I think comes out of my mouth!  This is a fault I have. I seem to do this more often than others, sometimes to embarrassment and sometimes it is just plain hysterical.  I told him we did not really like this type of music, (this was to be followed by a but….) except he immediately smiled and told me that was okay.  Wow! He was kind to me after an insult!  They just keep impressing me.   I told him that was our initial thought but from the moment we walked in, we liked them.  I guess you have to be there in person to see them, their fans, the reactions, the dancing, the smiles on their faces and to hear it live.  They are full of such energy and happiness.   We LOVE  it!! I told the person, I think I found out that his name is Eric, that there was this magnet on my refrigerator.  He was like “You are the lady that posted that!”  I am sitting here now, shaking my head and smiling.  They saw the post and remembered it.  Our opinion of them just keeps getting better and better.  He was so kind and thankful for the support.

El Famous was up next followed by Alethia. They were great too!  Each band would pause between a song  in their performance and mention the prior group and the following group and have the crowd cheer for them.  They care about each other.  What was even nicer was that most of each group stayed throughout the entire show. So nice to not just perform and then leave.

Okay, we had only one left to go and that was the reason we came.  We had made it through the night and was still enjoying it.   Well, enjoying it except for that area where the kids all go and …perhaps they call it dancing, I do not know, it is not what I would call dancing, but then again you have seen that I do not know much about this and all of my assumptions were apparently erroneous.   I was a bit upset and a bit fearful that someone would be hurt.  Here is the twist yet again.  Everyone was smiling, bumping into each other, pushing and shoving, but still smiling.  Crazy! And I have no idea how they can shake their heads the way they do.  I even asked one of the members if he had heard of shaken baby syndrome and he said yes, I have it!  There is that humor again! At times, it didn’t really look like they were actually pushing and shoving that hard.  Was it my imagination that they were doing this lightly?  I did not want my son to get hurt.  Then I did not want any of them to get hurt.  I was a bit anxious.  Another thing I noticed was that  if someone fell several people were instantly there swooping down to pick them up and to see if they were okay.  Everyone was still smiling.  What the heck!  These people are still being kind.  I am sure accidents may happen, but none of it appeared to be with harmful intent. Hmmmm.

Drums have always been my favorite.  I use to love the parades and was always excited when the band passed by.  I remember at the parades when the drums were coming by, our son would bounce along to the beat and smile and his eyes would be wide opened! (Another movie quote here….”I think he gets it from me.” Comment below if you get it.) Synovial did not disappoint!  When we went to concerts in the past at least one time during the set, there would be a drum solo. I also thought that was a thing of the past.  Nope!   We were fooled again!  WOW! WOW AND WOW!  What a drummer Synovial has!   When it was all over, we ended up meeting all of Synovial. What a nice, nice group of young men.  Thank you for your kindness. I even collected my hug as promised from Kamil!  In fact others gave hugs as well!

It Starts!

IT STARTS! (Don’t miss the reference here —- Lion King!)

I was born the fourth child with two brothers and a sister being born before me (another brother followed me). Childhood, of course was awesome. We moved to the country when I was around 4, so life was so interesting with all of the exploring we could do on the property and we spent most of our time in the woods playing in the creek, building forts, looking for Kool Pop houses and whatever came to our imagination!

There was a commercial about a big old owl who lived in a little “woodsy” house and he would give children who happened by a Kool Pop. There was also an owl on the tootsie pop commercial wondering how many licks it took to get to the tootsie roll, but this one was different. I wonder if any of you remember the Kool Pop house? Children would be on a walk and come upon this cottage/treehouse thing and the owl would give you a Kool Pop. Our dad would go out and half way assemble something (we found this out later in life) then he would walk around with us through the woods and say, “There is a Kool Pop house!” and point in the direction. We would excitedly look and it was just a partial frame. Dad would say, “Oh I am sorry, I saw it and it disappeared because I am a grown up.” Our older brother and his friend were always building forts, etc, out there, so it may have been some of their failed attempts as well. We spent days looking for those houses. This was probably a good ploy of dad’s to keep us occupied for quite some time! We wanted to find one so much!!!

We had great times there, we had a huge garden, orchards, lots of animals…pigs, cows, goats, chickens, horses, ducks, quail, rabbits, a bit of all farm animals. Dad had a very long sledding hill built for us and a pond. You can figure our childhood was filled with lots of fun things to do. My older brother one day asked me if I wanted to ride Sarah, the cow. I of course said sure. He hoisted me right up there and off Sarah and I went. We went all over those 10 acres! When we returned, my brother came running up and started helping me down asking if I were okay and if the cow tried to get me off of her or run me into any trees or fences. When I said no, he started excitedly hollering, “Hey everyone we can ride the cow!” My mother heard this and I am pretty sure she was not too happy with my brother, but I was safe and had a nice ride!

The entire country was ours for the exploring. We would walk or ride bicycles all day and visit neighbors and gather in each other’s yards or woods for the day to play. We would run out that door at sun up and return at lunch and head right back out until supper. When we needed snacks, we could grab something from the garden or have some berries, apples, peaches, cherries, whatever was growing. I sure miss those fresh foods! It seemed that most of the time everyone was at our house. We had a huge yard. We would play baseball, starting with flies and grounders. As cars would come by they would stop and get out and play and before long we would have a baseball game. The same thing would happen with kickball or flag football. It was amazing that people who never even knew you would feel comfortable enough to stop and get out and ask if they could play! Of course, we welcomed them.

We caught the rain water in barrels so we had a lot of barrels. We would “walk” on the barrels and have races. I have a picture of this that I might post some day! We had barrels for our appropriate sizes. My little brother and I had the smallest ones. Doing this took some balance and leg strength! The neighbors came down and got in on this activity as well. People passing by would always stop and join in the fun. What great times! My older brothers became more competitive and adventurous and would race with my little brother and me on their shoulders! Pretty sure mom was not thrilled with this either.

Well, this is a bit of background. I really did not think I could just jump in and randomly tell stories. I feel this background helps you get to know me and my family and to know my character. I will try my best, but I probably will not tell stories here in chronological order and I may just want to talk about things at times and not tell stories. I have always been one of those people where so many random things pop out of my mouth that I even surprise myself sometimes. Often times, it is the case that I would have been better off keeping my mouth shut. Oh how I try to talk myself out of the situations I get myself into then. It is always good for a laugh, though!

I will probably post on two days a week. Thank you for coming back again to read what I have to say. More to come………………..

Introduction

Welcome.  Today, since I am starting out, I really do not know what to say and believe me, I always have a lot to say!  I write in tablets, binders, any type of booklet that i pick up.  I sort have kept a diary since I was 13.  There are many unfinished ones lying around the house and in storage bins.  My children may or may not have a good time reading them when they come across them.   They may think, if they do not already…. What a crazy mom!

Let’s start with the title …. Follow what brick road?  That was taken from my all time favorite movie, The Wizard of Oz.  It is too bad that there was not such a clear cut road to follow in life. There are more turns, hills, valleys and loop de loops than one can handle at times. That is what this will mostly be about, all of the many paths life leads you down.

Next, we will sort of introduce me…. I love to laugh, love people, love children.  I grew up in a family of 5 children.  There was always something going on. My mother is responsible for this.  We will go into detail about her later.  She was definitely one of a kind.  You might say that our family never met a stranger.  We always talk to people, meet new people, and love it! Often times, this can lead to some very funny and embarrassing situations which will be mentioned here later.  Great times! My husband and I  have a family of 5 children ourselves and we love a house full!  Our home as well as my parent’s home was open to all.

Bear with me here, this may sound dull, but I promise you it will be interesting.  It is hard for me to stay on track and not talk too much at once. For instance, when I mentioned my mother, I could have went into several stories, but I need to try to keep some sort of organization.  Some people call them bonus stories, others call it getting sidetracked.

I hope for this to entertain, encourage and enlighten.  The stories of the family are too good to let just disappear and I like the memories. The lessons learned may help others.  The biggest goal, besides my getting to write it down and recall the wonderful memories  is that perhaps you will just enjoy this and maybe it will bring a  smile or laugh to you.